“Breathing Lessons in Bend, Oregon”
The kitchen shenanigans continued on Monday morning with D making a trip with the twins to pick out marble for the countertops. She likes that piece hanging from the forklift, and was quite elated when able to convince me that we should get a bit extra to make a “waterfall” on one end of the island. Here’s a picture in case, like me, you’re wondering what that “waterfall” might look like.

Finn and I headed out for a coffee in the afternoon. It’s nice to have a coffee drinker around with a flexible schedule. We tried the new PJ’s New Orleans coffee shop – not bad but some kinks to work out for sure. Then we picked up some new jeans for Finn – just like the other pair he has. Certainly a creature of habit.
Finn cooked up some yummy chickpea pasta with pesto sauce and chicken for dinner – apparently the secret was to cook the pasta in chicken broth. We attempted to watch some of the NCAA “March Madness” basketball tournament but that was not going over well with McD.
Tuesday ended up being quite the eventful day. Finn was scheduled for his
COVID shot in the afternoon at the Allen football stadium. Can you believe that is a high school stadium? The local Fire Department was in charge of this site and they were extremely efficient – 2 minutes from entering the parking lot until shot in the arm. We pulled Penelope into a parking spot to wait the requisite 15 minutes before leaving. Then things almost immediately took a bad turn. Finn said he was feeling faint, went pure white, leaned back in his seat, eyes rolling back and body shaking. Good grief – time for some help! The paramedic showed up quickly and hooked Finn up to an EKG, pulse, and blood pressure machine. Both pulse and blood pressure had dropped to very low levels. As he regained consciousness, Finn was not at all pleased to hear the paramedic say that he wanted to check his blood sugar level – “I don’t recommend poking me with any needles just now” – the paramedic nodded along, stuck him before he noticed, and reported blood sugar just fine. After about 10 minutes some color started creeping back into his face and we rejected the strong advice of the fire department ambulance workers that had arrived on the scene to go with them to the nearest hospital. Another 30 minutes or so and Finn was on his couch resting. Diana and I took turns checking on him. He claims that he “died and came back to life” and that “there’s not a bright light to guide you”. I think he’s a good story teller.
Diana made us some delicious chicken empanadas, in the special machine we’ve had for over a year and never used, as a treat for surviving the afternoon escapades. In Pacifica, Clorinda was getting quite the kick out of her dinosaur taco holder.

Shortly after dinner I received a call from Brennon at Skyline to let me know they had a spot for Finn earlier than expected. He was scheduled for April 26th but they could now take him as early as Sunday. Time to jump into planning mode around getting Finn out there on the weekend. By the time I went to bed I had booked flights and found what I thought would be a good hotel for a weekend stay. Told you it was quite an eventful day.
On Wednesday both Finn and I visited Dr. Haslam, the orthopedic surgeon that fixed my broken leg. Me to get my repaired leg checked and to make sure my right leg was okay, Finn to check out his wrist which hurts when he lifts any weight. X-rays didn’t show anything notable and so the recommendation is that we both get MRIs for more detail. I did get a cream that should help my left leg.
We stopped into Nerdvana coffee on the way home from the doctor visit. Finn was entertained by all the role playing games they sold and was particularly tickled by what he described as the “Episode of the Big Bang Theory” taking place at the table next to us. A group of geeky folks were going deep into what makes a good cup of coffee – way deep.
Finn got a COVID test on Thursday, as required by Skyline for admission – thankfully the test doesn’t cause any scary side-effects. I took him for a haircut and picked up some final supplies. He seems prepared but neither of us really want him to go – it’s been such a treat having him with us and he’s really settled in. Change and the unknown future are hard.
I absolutely love this penguin art that he created for me with a note that I’ll treasure on the back.
We had an early start to the airport on Friday morning for our flights to Seattle and then Redmond, Oregon. A bit of an initial snafu – I had splurged on first class seats for the trip out, but the plane didn’t have a row 4 where we were sitting. Some jiggery pokery ensued and then we were reassigned to exit row seats and saved some money. Finn was able to lord it up in first class by himself. A reasonably quick change in Seattle – just time for a coffee – and we were on our way to Redmond. The views from the plane around Seattle and Redmond were quite spectacular. You can definitely make out the volcanic shape in the first picture.


After a 20 minute drive we were checking into our hotel in Bend, Oregon. The Riverhouse on the Deschutes was a perfect home base for us, with great views of the river from our balconies and a pleasant restaurant and bar with a large deck on the opposite side of the river. A cabin just down the bank from our rooms had an interesting story as told on this sign:

Apparently John Wayne and Katharine Hepburn stayed at the hotel during filming.
The view from our bedroom balcony was really relaxing with the pines and the flowing river.

We enjoyed an early Friday dinner at Joolz Mediterranean in downtown Bend – an eclectic few blocks of restaurants, bars, boutiques, coffee shops, and record and book stores. This restaurant was outstanding. Chef Ramsey
worked wonders with simple ingredients. My favourite was the fried cauliflower – tremendous flavour. The lamb meatballs and hummus with elk meat were also excellent. Diana proclaimed the chopped salad the best she had tasted in ages. Finn finished off with his favourite dessert – baclava, and had some leftover to go with the lemon bars that D had snuck into his back-pack. All three of us are still raving about this place and can’t wait to visit Bend again so that we can go back. An early night was called for after all the travel and excitement of the day.

Saturday started with coffee at Spoken Moto, a great combination of coffee shop and vintage motorcycle store. I loved the green egg bowl from the Scoutpost food truck in the patio area. Bend has so many excellent coffee shops per square mile – can we just have a couple of them in McKinney?
Suitably coffeed, we made the 20 minute drive to explore Tumalo falls. I had read that you could hike a somewhat robust 2.5 miles to the falls or drive right up to them and park. The road in was closed off and I couldn’t understand why, so we parked and investigated. None of us had the proper shoes for a 2.5 mile hike up a rocky path but decided to at least have a short wander. We quickly realized that the snow on the road was the reason for it being close off. I don’t think we went much over half a mile up the path, but did get some good photos. Can you tell Finn is feeling a wee bit cold?



The exploration continued with a drive on down the road to the Mount Bachelor ski resort – in full swing on a sunny day and not too busy. Finn liked the half-pipe and snowboard jumps. Hopefully he gets to partake before Spring skiing ends. The mountain is less than 30 minutes from his house.
We arrived back in downtown Bend in time for Diana and Finn to enjoy a yummy brunch at the Lemon Tree – they weren’t hungry when I had breakfast earlier at the Scoutpost. I got to sample their delicacies. Diana was quite adventurous and ordered the Shakshuka – a Tunisian dish with a sauce of tomatoes, chile peppers and onions simmered with North African spices, and served with poached eggs and grilled Stirato – delicious combination of flavours. Diana described the Lemon Tree experience as “great food, lousy service.” She was not wrong. The only poor service we experienced all weekend – the overall vibe was very much friendly and welcoming.
We had a wander around downtown and then headed back to the hotel to relax before dinner at 900 Wall (right next door to Joolz). This was a fancier restaurant that didn’t disappoint at all. We started with a charcuterie board and tempura fried green beans (a big hit), and then Finn surprised us by insisting on the duck confit (even after I tried to steer him to a few other things) – it ended up being delicious and he finished every bite on the plate. Diana had the teres major. Anybody heard of that? We certainly hadn’t. Turns out it’s the second most tender steak from a cow but only a very small piece (0.5%) of the total beef from the cow. Diana enjoyed it very much and had plenty of leftovers. I tried the much lauded burger and loved it. Can you tell we enjoyed our meals in this picture?

Easter Sunday started relatively early with a 9am brunch at McKay’s cottage restaurant. This place was almost next door to the hotel and was just perfect. Coffee and drinks while you waited for your table, excellent food and very good service. They even had laminated menus just for Easter Sunday and you can see eggs hidden around for kids to hunt (see – in the flowers?) I highly recommend this brunch if you ever make it to Bend. On the subject of eggs – check out the decorating skills of Damon’s artsy family after the breakfast pictures.


We dropped Finn off at his home for the next 3 to 6 months after brunch. He’ll be sharing the house with 6 other young men and the place looked really nice – large yard with pine trees and lots of seating areas. The two folks that we met (Gage and Will) who are associated with the house and program were very kind and welcoming. It was exceptionally hard to leave Finn after he’d done so well living with us, but we believe he is in great hands as he starts the next chapter.
Diana and I distracted ourselves with a hike down the Deschutes river trail. We picked up the trail about a third of a mile from the hotel and followed it for a mile and a half or so back into downtown. The river changed from broad and slow moving to fast paced rapids, with canoeists practicing their slalom course moves at one point. The large houses on the banks had fantastic situations.


We had intended to end our hike with a visit to the Pine Tavern on the river bank. That was closed and so we ended up back at 900 Wall with a lovely table in the sun and some more of those delicious green beans.
We called it an early night after that – our 7am start on Monday came quickly. The flights home were smooth. I love flying from small regional airports like Redmond where you’re the only folks in the security line and everything is so quiet and relaxed. The view from the rental car parking lot is pretty great too.


I finished “Breathing Lessons” by Anne Tyler and I did enjoy the remainder much more than the first third – maybe I was just in the right frame of mind. I always like it when the first paragraph of a book sets the scene of what lies ahead so concisely:
“Maggie and Ira Moran had to go to a funeral in Deer Lick, Pennsylvania. Maggie’s girlhood friend had lost her husband. Deer lick lay on a narrow country road some ninety miles north of Baltimore, and the funeral was scheduled for ten-thirty Saturday morning; so Ira figured they should start around eight. This made him grumpy. (He was not an early-morning kind of man.) Also Saturday was his busiest day at work, and he had no one to cover for him. Also their car was in the body shop.”
The different personalities of Maggie and Ira and they way react to situations with families and friends are at the heart of this story:
“‘Oh, great, Maggie; another one of your logical progressions.’
‘One thing about you that I really cannot stand,’ she said, ‘is how you act so superior. We can’t have just a civilized back-and-forth discussion; oh, no. No, you have to make a point of how illogical I am, what a whifflehead I am, how you’re so cool and above it all.'”
I saw a report on TV about “Leave Out the Tragic Parts” by Dave Kindred and decided to torture myself by reading it this week – hoping to learn some more on the topic of addiction. Kindred is a sportswriter who has won numerous awards and covered most of the major sporting events over the last 30 years. He lost his grandson to alcohol addiction in 2014.
The story is equally tragic, well researched and very well written. Jared, the grandson, joins an underground group of young people who travel around the country by jumping on railway cars and then sleep on the streets in whichever city they land in. I had never heard of such a thing. Several of the characters in the book have been living this way for many years. Jared becomes completely addicted to alcohol and, even after many hospital visits where he suffers seizures whenever off alcohol for more than a few hours, continues on with his self-destructive lifestyle. I had several quotes dog-eared to share, but they’re all too heavy right now, so I’ll share just the most poignant paragraph from the book:
“Unless you’ve been there, you can’t imagine what it’s like to watch helplessly as someone you love descends into addiction. The transformation defies logic – until you understand that your loved one is gravely ill with a brain disease that is debilitating, chronic, progressive, and, if left untreated, often fatal.”
Switching quickly to a more positive quote. Here Kindred talks about telling one of his sports journalism stories to Jared:
“Jared, learning to play soccer, liked the story about the poor boy who kicked a ball made of rags. “Tell me Pele”, he said, and we went in our imagination first to Brazil and finally to the Meadowlands stadium, where I heard the greatest soccer player ever, in the last game of his career, shout to the 75,646 spectators, “Repeat after me: Love…Love…Love.””

I love the feel of this song from trumpeter and label owner Willie Mitchell. Classic 70s beats:
Here are two versions of a John Prine classic – I love them both:
And finishing up with one of my top three songs – Diana and I enjoyed a version from a street musician performing in downtown Bend as we enjoyed our drinks and snack at 900 Wall on Sunday afternoon:
Stay kind and patient with everyone!
As if that wasn’t a sufficient disturbance, the Designing Twins were over in the morning to review a couple of colour palette options for the kitchen. “We” seem to be pretty firm on using the same hardwood floors that we have in the family room, dining room etc. for the kitchen, and the tile you see here is the leading candidate for the backsplash. (Update from later in the week – that backsplash is no longer going to make the cut – we don’t love it after living with it for a few days.) Diana is heavily focused on closing out most of the kitchen remodel decisions this week. Rachel was scheduled for dinner on Monday night, but the weather turned very ugly and so we’ll have to arrange that at a later date. We were tired and happy to relax by ourselves.
on the way home and then had fun digging a hole and securing D’s fleur-de-lis hose holder much more effectively – it’s not going anywhere now. I’m predicting that a future task assignment could be polishing up and cleaning the fleur-de-lis.
We almost forgot to record a Happy Birthday video for David’s 55th. My plan was to do it on the guitar this time to change things up from the normal piano rendition. Quite a bit of hilarity ensued in my office as we (mostly I) tried to get things right.
I picked up Cavallis pizza, salad and arancini for dinner on Friday night. Finn really likes the official Neapolitan style pizza – and he and Diana agree that the Margherita Extra is the best choice. We tortured Adamo with this picture – he’s a huge fan of Cavallis. He’s going to have to bring the family out to visit if he wants some – wait…is that a good idea? Can our house withstand that kind of visit?

We finally watched “Hamilton” on Saturday night. I didn’t realize it was a full 3 hour epic, but really enjoyed all of it. Such a creative and entertaining retelling of very interesting history. The Thomas Jefferson character was my favourite.







Diana and I started Monday with a run in the beautiful weather. I completed the 20 minutes of running that finishes out Week 5 of Couch to 5K and am excited to move on to Week 6. Only 2 more weeks after that and I’ll supposedly be ready for our first joint 5K race. I am going to need to improve my speed quite a bit if I’m hoping to cross the finish line at the same time as McD. Diana found an interesting race for us – the “Run for the Rose” in McKinney. It comes with a glass of sparking rose at the finish line, snacks from Zin Zen and Sugarbacon, a commemorative champagne glass and a medal. Sounds perfect for at least one of us.
We put Finn to work in the afternoon and he made a good start in painting the pool room. He had to cover up all the dirty prints form Alicia and friends, and the kids that lived here before us. Painting the entire wall ended up being the more efficient process.
Diana lost interest a bit as the documentary continued, and so she and Finn whipped up some delicious lemon bars from a recipe that she uncovered from her archives at Finn’s request. You can tell it’s pretty serious business.





We couldn’t resist stopping into Kate Weiser’s chocolate shop while we were there. So many other places I had planned to put on the itinerary had closed – Bolsa (although opened under a different name) and the amazing charcuterie place from the Lucia guys (opening soon as a larger Lucia) – so it was good to see the chocolate shop still in business. Patty’s favourite cupcake shop next door was also doing a very brisk business. The chocolates and Easter eggs from Weiser really are works of art – those “Chick-a-dees” on the left really are edible chocolate. We have several eggs to choose from on Easter Sunday. And individual candies for each of us – key-lime pie for D, salted caramel for K, and strawberry for F.


I enjoyed this gaggle of turtles that Diana snapped on her virtual walk with Alicia after breakfast. Gaggle – is that the right term for a group of turtles? I’m pretty sure it’s not even close. Let’s check. A bale, turn, dole, or nest is the correct term, with a bale and turn applying exclusively to turtles. Who knew? We’ve never seen even a single turtle by that pond before. It’s like walking along the river in Austin with bales (see how I quickly incorporated my learning to try and reinforce it) of turtles everywhere.


This was a relatively quiet week overall – mostly just working at home. I met our friend Vinod for lunch at Brio in Southlake on Monday. It was nice to catch up as I haven’t really talked to him in months. We used to see each other every day in Austin and Vinod would always come by my desk to check in at the start of the day. In all the years that I’ve known Vinod, I’ve never seen him with any kind of facial hair – apparently his wife has given the new goatee a maximum one month lifespan.
Amy and Ray were in town to do a final pack up for their move to Santa Fe. Diana is really going to miss her workout buddy. We enjoyed one of McD’s excellent meat and cheese platters on Thursday evening and had a great visit. The ladies seem to be enjoying my music selection in this picture. Finn hung in there with us for a couple of hours before heading up to bed. He says the music didn’t keep him awake – I hope that’s true.
Scottish night on Saturday consisted of haggis, meat pies, shepherd’s pies, mashed potatoes and baked beans – all the classics. We did torture Finn with the piping in of the haggis and reciting of a portion of the “Address to a Haggis.” He didn’t think he’d tasted haggis before and quite liked it.



Thursday started with a big milestone – I received my first dose of the Pfizer COVID vaccine. The process was very efficient and I didn’t appear to suffer any big side-effects – just a wee bit of dizziness in the afternoon.

I just received my renewed passport (no European mention and back to the pre-EU blue colour) on Monday and so, coupled with the vaccine, should be ready to travel again in a month or two.
The three of us went for another run when I got back home. I decided to attempt Week 5 Day 1 even though my legs were still quite sore from Tuesday. Finn was a real trooper and did it as well. I was totally worn out after that, but did convince Finn to take on a crepe myrtle trimming project. Doesn’t he look like he’s having an absolute blast with the project. He did a great job on 3 trees and then had to attack the cleanup – always the last fun part.






I finished up “The Moth and the Mountain” by Ed Caesar. The adventure story should have been very compelling but I really struggled to stay engaged. Caesar is a reporter for the New Yorker magazine and the book felt more like a very detailed research article than an exciting story of flying around the world and attempting to climb Everest. Too much about Maurice’s letters to friends in England than real story telling.






Finn and I checked into an Airbnb house in San Mateo (about 10 minutes from Will’s apartment) that I had rented for us for the week. The place was great – comfy with lots of space, good wifi, and just as advertised. We enjoyed the care package of a host of great Trader Joe’s snacks that Alicia had put together for us.


We started Saturday with a trip over to Pacifica to meet Alicia and Diana at Soul Grind for coffee and breakfast. Finn thought his Vietnamese coffee and ham and burrata quiche were the best he’d tasted. We walked along the beach path after breakfast and enjoyed the great weather.
week was picked up at Target on the way back to the Airbnb. We also picked up a meal kit and cooked up some delicious lemon zest burrata raviolis with shredded chicken and pesto sauce – it turned out really well as we improvised a bit with the kitchenware we had available.





Ferlinghetti also founded the famous City Lights bookstore in the North Beach (Italian) section of San Francisco. I’ve always enjoyed browsing there and find their recommendations very helpful.
I read “The Paris Library” by Janet Skeslien Charles and am a bit nervous to say that I’m really enjoying it. Why nervous? – it reads a bit like a girly romance novel – but I’m ok with some of that while I enjoy the descriptions of Paris and what sounds like an amazing institution – The American Library in Paris (ALP).

Bitter cold and no heat mean almost everybody has a burst pipe story. We were again very fortunate. I was watching TV on Thursday and wondered what all the static noise from the speakers was. I turned off the amp and TV and it persisted. Following the noise took me to a small river flowing out of an electric socket that is through the wall from our hose tap. Ugh! Rapid response required before the hardwood floors are ruined. Diana sprinted out front and began trying to find the water main under the snow. She found it quickly but we couldn’t get the frozen cap off. I got sufficiently mad at it and it popped off.
Water off and we now had a big flood to clean up. Fortunately our neighbor Daniel has a deluxe shop-vac that made quick work of the clean up. Daniel also helped us repair the burst so that we could turn the water on again. A trip to Home Depot – not a ton of fun with the road conditions – to pick up a pipe cutter and my new best friend – a Shark Bite pipe cap – and we were all set to execute our emergency repair. With phone communication in place I ventured back out front and slowly turned the water back on – all good. Crisis averted.








I finished reading “Hard to Handle.” A very enjoyable read and so disappointing to read story after story of how egomaniacal, uncaring, and intolerable both Chris and Rich Robinson really were throughout the life of the band.
Happy Saint Valentine’s Day to all of you. We are definitely staying inside to celebrate, except for a quick sprint that I plan later – out to the grill to cook the lobster tails. Temperatures are falling way below freezing very quickly and are not forecast to pass back above until next Saturday. We have an inch or snow just now and are expected to receive another 6 to 8 inches this afternoon with “near blizzard conditions.”
Weather has been the big discussion topic this week with an ice storm on Thursday causing havoc with traffic. Several massive pileups closed almost all the major highways through and around the Dallas/Fort Worth area. We don’t expect to be able to leave the house for the next week as several inches of snow and freezing temperatures will effectively shut down the roads until Saturday. The temperatures on the left have been significantly reduced in the current forecast.




I finished up “Shuggie Bain” by Douglas Stuart this week, and the narrative certainly didn’t get any more uplifting as Agnes, Shuggie’s mother, continues her downward spiral with alcohol abuse. There is a vague hope at the end that Shuggie is getting on his own feet and may have a successful future. I did continue to find humour in some of the phrases:


About this time of year, we would typically be “discussing” whether to attend the Mardi Gras season in New Orleans and looking forward to Jazzfest. Not this year, at least not until potentially October for Jazzfest. Anne shared this picture of Tin Men playing in front of one of the Mardi Gras float house in New Orleans. Will saw Tin Men with the boys crew at Mirliton Festival on his 25th birthday trip to NOLA, and loved them. They are best known to us for the classic “If You Can’t Make it Here” song – one of Timmy’s favourites and a great sing along number:
We’ve taken to reading a story from Diana’s Christmas Winnie the Pooh collection out loud if we’re not too tired when we make it to bed. I’m still perfecting the voices for each of the characters. Diana decided it would be good if Pooh could join us – and of course have easy access to his favourite food. I just hope that Hunny pot doesn’t fall on my head one night when I’m sleeping.
Monday and Wednesday were both great running days – sunny with temperatures in the mid 50s. Week 4 of Couch to 5K was much more pleasant the second time around. The last 5 minutes of running didn’t have me puffing nearly as much as on Monday. I hoping to make it to Week 5 next week without any injuries.
As if that wasn’t enough torture, I then made a trip to the grocery store with McD. In all fairness, I had volunteered to get some lobster tails to do a dry run on my Valentine’s day meal. We did pretty well – I overcooked the lobster a little bit but they still tasted great and we really liked the herb butter. That’s a picture from the recipe and ours didn’t look too dissimilar – we got too excited about tasting them and forgot a picture.
It won’t be snowing in Tampa today for the Super Bowl. We’re looking forward to settling in to watch a good game this evening. And I’m looking forward to the traditional pigs in a blanket that Diana will be cooking up.
I completed my journey through the life of John Steinbeck earlier this week. Souder’s book does a great job of intertwining Steinbeck’s writing exploits with the history of the world at the time, traveling through the Depression, World War II, the Korean War and Vietnam. My only beef with Souder is the way he narrates objectively for the majority of the book and then feels compelled to dismiss points of view that are contrary to Steinbeck’s in a very flippant way, with no exploration of both sides of an argument.
Monday was Burns day and so we cooked up one of the tins of haggis, the lamb version, and piped it in with “Scotland the Brave” from Spotify. I gave a poor rendition of “Address to a Haggis”, with a translated printout for Diana, and then we enjoyed the once a year or so treat – really yummy. After that Diana was “wanting something sweet” and so, in my typically cheesy way, I guided her through to the piano and attempted a rendition of “My Love is Like a Red Red Rose”. It was a very poor attempt, having only printed the music a couple of hours earlier. Here’s a better attempt – see Mum, I did get some roses this year. Diana quipped “Now I recognize it.”
Going up to the elliptical on Tuesday, I came across this display of Mardi Gras beads. Apparently McD had decided to organize our collection of beads ahead of parade season (cancelled this year) and thought the pool table provided the ideal surface. We collected the majority of those on a freezing cold parade night on our first New Orleans Mardi Gras visit.
The Designer Twins and Jose visited us on Friday afternoon to discuss the rumoured kitchen remodel. We’ll see what great ideas they come back with. One of the bigger discussion points was whether or not to keep the elevated, round section of the island. We enjoy gathering around a meat and cheese plate there when we have another couple over. Jose says they’re out of style and we need to consider a single long island that accommodates seating at the end. Any input from those of you that have occupied the barstools at the raised end? I’m scared to see the bid – so much tile and granite to be replaced.
I finished up “The Strangler” by William Landay this week and did enjoy the conclusion of the tale.